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How to Know When You Are Being Scammed — Part Two

senior-women-datingThis is a continuation of last week's article How to Know When You Are Being Scammed — Part One.

This week I want to talk about a few other warning signs that indicate that your potential date may not be genuine. Here are some other red flags you should be aware of:

(1) Resistance to allowing you to call their home or telling you not to call at certain times for what seem like odd reasons. If this becomes a consistent pattern, you must consider the possibility that they may be married and that you're being considered for a fling on the side.

(2) Resistance to meeting your family once you've gone on dates together. Someone open and honest — even if they are extremely shy — will want to meet your family and friends, especially if it's important to you.

(3) Resistance to telling you about themselves — they only seem to want to know about you. Don't confuse someone who is a great listener with someone who is being secretive and guarded.

(4) The stories that you're being told seem 'larger than life'. Let your 'common sense radar' guide you when you are being told about the 100-foot yacht in Monaco, the celebrity parties and the Pied-à-terre in Paris! Sorry for the cliché, but if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is.

(5) When you are chatting online you don't feel that you have their undivided attention because there are really long delays waiting for a response. They could legitimately be slow at typing — especially if they are new to using a computer. Or they could be having multiple online conversations at one time. If you have just met them, this may not be much of an issue. But if you have spent weeks getting to know this person online, you may want to delay any physical meetings if you feel they don't see the same relationship potential in you that you see in them.

(6) Remember that anyone who is genuinely trying to win your affection will understand and respect your caution and your concern for safety, because they are in the exact same boat. If they are in this for the right reasons, they will want to know that you are too.

Online dating can be a wonderful means to finding the partner of your dreams, but as with anything you should exercise caution and maintaining your personal safety is always rule number one. Be safe and have fun!

5 Responses to “How to Know When You Are Being Scammed — Part Two”

  1.  Marie Holmes says:

    The above article was insightful, Thank you!

    Posted on 15-Aug-12 at 4:48 pm | Permalink
  2.  Hope Melo says:

    Thanks for the advice!

    Posted on 26-Jan-14 at 12:30 am | Permalink
  3.  Pamela Hormerte says:

    I just started online dating approximately 1 month ago. During that time I have run into 5 scammers. One asked for money, but the others took my time and involved my emotions (slightly). I am 72 so I was suspicious the first time I heard I love you and want to marry you within 5 minutes and then wanting to go off sight. I was lucky enough to find an article re: scamming. The person who wrote the article explained that just the word "scam" is enough to send the dishonest person back to where they were from. I wrote a letter talking about the subject and involving all the "talk shows" that it was mentioned on. Never accusing, but letting people I knew. I tried it out the next day and the first "love of my life" who was not only handsome but stole the picture from another web page disappeared following my letter. The money man visiting Nigeria
    got a firm no and I disappeared. Another man did not believe I had been scammed because no money was involved, but he disappeared in the middle of an email. Each time I have put that "word" out only as information, the relationship has ended. Sad but true. I am not emailing a man who contacted me. We talk about general topics and I usually ask him questions. W

    Posted on 30-Mar-15 at 7:32 pm | Permalink
  4.  Dianne says:

    Thank you. My online conversation could only happen between 9.30 and 10 pm, never any other time. In the times that I met up with him, there was never any sex although he initially told me in an early email that he had a high sex drive! There were no gifts on my birthday and he was very quick to spend my money. He never paid for anything. Having read your articles, I now have to admit that I was being scammed. I feel so stupid.

    Posted on 15-Dec-15 at 3:48 am | Permalink
  5.  nancy says:

    i had once an online friend and we were almost one year in chatting.
    He asked me money for his son. he cannot send his son because he was in the ship. He did it to me i think three times. Since then i blocked him no matter i was being deceived as long as i helped a boy. Then because of a long time we've been friend i missed him, so, i opened my other account and i saw him i read his message that something he was pointing me out. so, i sent him message privately and he seemed to be happy to see me. Oftentimes i looked into his messages until he told me he was already in mainland. He jumped from the ship he's working. Since that time i stopped sending him message. Later i received a message from our mutual friend that was also working with him in the ship. She told me That my friend was dead and he left me his wealth because he made me his beneficiary and he also left me his adopted son. So, i tried to message his account and someone replied, although i know that he was dead. So i asked him who he was he replied that he was the FBI who handled the case of my dead friend. The FBI wanted me to come in the US to settle all the things left with my dead friend. And he gave me email address of the bank of the late. And the bank after i gave some of my information they opened me an online account and ready to transfer the money.
    and now my concern is: what is this? is this a scam or what?

    Posted on 11-Sep-16 at 10:28 am | Permalink

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