"Welcome to Senior Dating - the site I created to help Seniors
find Love and Companionship on the Internet - the right way! You’ll find
reviews of the best senior dating sites as well as tips and advice to help you get the most from your dating experience and enhance your life!" Kathy Damer, Editor.

How to move your relationship from 'online' to 'in-person.'

senior-woman-on-phoneI had an interesting email this week from a reader who finds herself in a dilemma that some of you may also be able to relate to.

Dorothy met Harry on a senior dating site over a year ago and they have developed very strong feelings for each other. What makes their situation difficult is that they live in different parts of the country, and they have not been able to meet yet.   They are planning on meeting for the first time in person and Dorothy will be going to visit Harry for a few days. The problem is that Harry is pressuring Dorothy to move in together (even though they haven't met yet) which also means that one of them would have to relocate across the country.  She deeply cares for Harry, but is terrified of making such a huge commitment this early on in the game without allowing time to really get to know each other – but she doesn't want to lose the relationship either.

Ok — so the way I see it Dorothy, is that there are two separate issues here.

First off, I have no doubt that you have deep feelings for Harry.   You've spent many hours together online and on the phone and he has become a big part of your life. The intensity of emotion that you can feel under these circumstances can be incredible and there is no question that these are real feelings.   This, however, is not real life.

Knowing someone online (even for a year or more) does not mean you really know them – even if you have spent hours on the phone talking until the sun comes up. Until you've spent a good amount of physical time together – seeing the way he interacts with other people (both in his life and in yours) and finding out how compatible you are, you cannot decide if he is someone that you can share your life with.   Read more…

Do we need a partner to be fulfilled in life?

senior woman walking on beachI've had a letter from a woman named Lynne who recently had a bad experience with one particular online senior dating site and is throwing in the towel.   I'm not going to quote Lynne's letter directly as it contains a lot of personal information, but she lost her husband a while ago after a long and happy marriage.

Lynne, I was touched by your email. I believe that when you've had as wonderful a married life as you've had, it would be extremely difficult to find that again. You were very lucky indeed because with a staggering divorce rate of over 50% in North America, you certainly beat the odds with a 33 year marriage. Together, you found the magic that so many wish for, but sadly the relationship ended with your husband's death. Now you are alone with no children or close family to help you face the health challenges which makes your whole situation seem even more unfair.

You encountered some pretty shallow men when you recently attempted online dating but I have to say that the website you visited is not one that I would recommend to seniors looking for anything serious, in a partner or companion. There will be a few scammers and players lurking on most dating websites, but any site that has "millionaire" or anything to do with money in its name would make me particularly wary. It's no wonder that the kind of men you met were nothing like your late husband and that your attempt to try online dating failed miserably. Now you feel determined to give up on online dating altogether, and I get it. Read more…

Will joining an online dating site ruin my reputation?

Dear Kathy, I have been out of a long term relationship for 5 months now.   I am a 58-year-old young at heart guy and in decent shape for an "old guy".   I live in a small town and I'm embarrassed to post my picture on an online dating site. I have taken good care of myself over the years and feel that if someone in town sees my pic I would ruin my chances to meet someone offline.

How do I protect myself from the local town rumor mill?   I have a high profile in town and many people "know me".   Perhaps I should just cast my will to the wind like I've done in the past and just wait for the "right" person to come along.   I've been an honest man most of my life and I know the internet is filled with many dishonest people.   What to do???   Richard. Read more…

How Important is Chemistry?

chemistryLucy wrote to me this week:

"Dear Kathy, I just started on eHarmony.  I met a gentleman and we proceeded to have a meeting over coffee which was for 2 hours.  We then went on a lunch date and again talked for 2 hours. Our third date was dinner…we had a lovely time.

I felt I was getting to know this man slowly, no "sparks" on my part.   But possibly potential….in 8 hours how do you really know someone?  Secondly, the next day he gave me a "dear john" email saying that we were not on the same paths.

I was totally shocked…is this the norm?  He also asked to kiss me at the end of our dinner date.  On the cheek was acceptable to me.  Am I too slow? Or is this the norm? I need to be enlightened." Read more…

Is it wrong to meet someone new when my husband doesn't know me anymore?

senior-woman-reading-300x199This week I received a letter from a reader, Jane, that touches on an important issue which affects the lives of a growing number of seniors.

Jane writes, "Dear Kathy, I am in a very difficult situation. My husband has had five strokes, beginning when he was 55 and we had only been married two years. I love my husband deeply and had intended to care for him at home until his passing."

"I have been his caregiver for seven years. Since his last stroke, just over a year ago, he has been in a Skilled Nursing Facility. Doctors have been after me for several years to give in and turn his care over to the professionals at a SNF and I have resisted. I have now come to the point where I just can't manage his care at home any longer." Read more…

Internet Dating: Is it just a big scam?

senior woman datingRecently I received this comment from Lee on my article "How to Know When You Are Being Scammed": "I feel they are ALL SCAMS. Female and male alike on these things are out to steal your money not your heart. I have learned to accept being alone and just worry about my cats and the next day. If it happens, it will happen. Save your money and what is left of your heart!"

As humans we are generally not programmed to desire loneliness, but obviously Lee has had a bad experience with online dating to make a defeatist comment such as this. But something still managed to bring Lee to my site, so perhaps Lee isn't in the final inning of the game of love just yet. Read more…

I Want to Date but my Kids Say "No!"

senior woman workingThis was an email I recently received from a reader named Shirley:

"I am 72 years old, and have been on my own for five very lonely years since my husband died.   One day, after seeing all the commercials showing happy couples who found each other on online dating sites, I decided to take a look at what this was all about."

"I met a few nice men (of the right age) but one in particular really is someone I could see myself starting a relationship with.   I am not looking to jump into anything serious like marriage, but I think it would be so nice to have someone to go out with.   I miss that companionship.   The problem is that my son and daughter are totally against it and I have purposely held off on meeting this man because of my kids.   He is very patient and understands, but I can't expect him to wait forever for me to sort out these issues.   I know they are just being protective, but I am not a child.   What can I do?" Read more…

Do independent women scare male senior daters away?

independent-older-woman-225x300That was the interesting question that one of my readers asked me recently.   While society's values have shifted significantly over the last 50 years, most of my senior daters were raised with the "old fashioned" ideals where the man was the bread winner and the woman stayed at home.

Time changed all of that however and women began seeking meaningful careers outside the home, out of a need for both personal growth and financial necessity.

So lets fast-forward about 40 years or so and look at the online dating scene as a senior nowadays. There are a lot of men whose former housewives are a sharp contrast to some of the independent, computer savvy career women who they will meet on senior dating sites.   Can they form meaningful relationships?   Well I believe they can as long as both parties keep some vital information in mind. Read more…

About This Site

Kathy Damer studied Sociology at University and has worked as a marketing executive in the Retirement and Senior care industries for many years. Kathy has a deep understanding of the issues unique to senior dating and relationships and has been featured on the radio.

Kathy founded senior-dating.org as a way to provide free advice and resources for anyone looking to enter the world of senior dating. Please feel free to send Kathy your questions, comments and suggestions for topics that you would like to see covered.

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Senior Dating Made Easy.

I started this site as a resource for the many older women and men who are seeking love and companionship in their golden years. Every day, thousands of senior people meet other mature adults through the senior personals but for many of them, it’s their first online experience and they don’t know where to begin.

For some, whether internet savvy or not, the idea of beginning a new relationship through a senior dating site is completely uncharted territory. There can be many natural concerns to overcome, especially if you find yourself single again after the death of a spouse or divorce later in life. But fear not, help is only a click away!

You probably know about the big online dating sites. You may have even browsed the online adult personals, but you might not be aware that there are also hundreds of senior sites dedicated specifically towards helping older singles find relationships.

Some of the best seniors personals sites have tens of thousands of members which means it’s easy to find people in your area around the same age, as well as younger women for older men and older women for younger men. The world of online senior dating is truly your oyster. You can choose the type of person that you’re looking for and we’ll help direct you to the best sites to find them.

As a general rule, online senior dating sites cater to men and women over fifty, but I regularly get emails from mature sexy women who are dating younger men in their forties and even younger! While many of my readers are women seeking older men, I’ve also noticed a growing number of younger men who are dating mature women because they want to find someone to spend the rest of their lives with and they know that there’s no substitute for maturity and experience.

If you’re new to the world of senior dating, then I hope you’ll find this site useful as we talk about the many benefits of older dating. Whatever your age and life experience, you can find someone out there who’s right for you and I hope to help guide you on your quest to find your perfect senior date.