So how do you get the most out of your senior dating experience, and maximize your chances of success?
Well, there is so much I can say about this, but let’s start with your senior dating site profile – how you describe yourself and what you are looking for in a match.
Remember the golden rule “honesty is the best policy”? Well that definitely holds true if you are looking to make a match online, so be honest in your profile. Have a relatively current photo (as flattering as possible), and be as honest as possible about things like age, height and if you are carrying a few extra pounds – the truth will come out sooner or later if you end up making a connection. Stay true to your values – unless you are only looking for very superficial relationships – this will ultimately help you to make the best quality and lasting connections.
Periodically revisit your profile and update anything that may be helpful in making your profile as interesting as possible. Always try to see your profile as others see it. You can always create an online photo album which will enable you to show yourself in the best light possible, doing things that reflect the real you. This will generate much more interest in your profile. Just remember to vary the photos it contains and treat it as an opportunity to be creative with how you present yourself.
When it comes to filling out the section of your profile that indicates what you are looking for in a partner beware of being too demanding and seeking perfection. Let’s face it, no one is perfect. By being too picky you might exclude a lot of potentially good quality matches and make people intimidated about contacting you if they do not see themselves in your league.
You’ll find more success by settling a bit longer with someone that truly interests you, and giving yourself the chance to see past any minor imperfections to discover the real person inside. You will soon learn if they could be a good match for you to go on to speak to them on the phone and potentially meet up with them.
Has anything fresh and exciting happened to you recently? If so, include it in your profile. Maybe you have been on a Mediterranean cruise recently or volunteered at the local food bank. Or maybe you just took some classes that you are excited about. You never know, it might attract a new prospect that may have previously overlooked you.
Take a look at the kind of responses you’re getting and see if there’s a pattern emerging. It could be a reflection on how you wrote your bio (if the site requires this). For example, if your bio is too whimsical or sarcastic, you may not get the serious response that you are hoping for.
Also be cautious about talking about political or religious beliefs and avoid any health or financial problems you may be experiencing. I remember talking to one senior online dater recently who told me “Some men only see me as either a nurse or a purse – and I don’t want to be either of those things. I want to have some fun at this stage of my life and meet quality people who are interested in the person I am.”
Keep in mind if you come across as despondent, desperate or jaded, you may be losing out on a lot of quality matches because you have put them off with all your negativity. There are other mistakes to avoid but the important thing is to remember to stay as positive as possible – no matter how many bumps you have stumbled on in life. The best first impressions will take you the farthest in any situation and it is especially important in the online dating forum.
Finally, relax and enjoy the experience. Don’t forget that senior dating should be fun and the person you’ve been looking for is probably out there now, in just the same position as you. Every day, many people are finding love and companionship through senior dating and it can happen to you too!