Senior Dating Mistakes to Avoid

If it's your first time on a senior dating site and you suddenly see a selection of attractive looking, smiling senior singles in your area, all wanting to meet someone, you could find the experience quite intoxicating!

The danger here is that you can become addicted and spend all your time online while neglecting other areas of your life. Keep one foot in the real world and don't rule out traditional dating either.

Ok, you're thinking, job done. I've signed up to my senior dating site, now all I have to do is sit back, relax and wait....and wait...and wait.. because that's all you'll be doing if you don't grab the bull by the horns and initiate a few contacts.  Yes, it’s very important to be proactive, women in particular.

I can't stress enough the importance of being positive in your contacts. In your initial emails, stick to the present and the future. Don't talk about anything unhappy in your dim and distant past, especially failed romances.

This is no blind date for starters. You will have a pretty good idea about the person you're about to meet and what they look like.

If you feel that there's something vitally important for the other person to know, but it might put them off, then drip-feed them the information. By the time the whole story is out in the open they will probably have grown close enough to you that they will see it as no big deal.

You must remember to ask questions that are important to you during your initial email contact.  Don't delay for too long finding out whether your prospective date has children, for example, and if so what ages they are – remember guys and gals honesty is the best policy at all times, with maybe a few exceptions...........

We've all tweaked the truth just a little now and then, it's human nature, and it would be unrealistic to think people didn't do it online to enhance their prospects.  But how do you spot a liar?

Firstly, have a good read of their profile and look for any obvious inconsistencies.  For example, they may describe themselves as a fun-loving night owl – so how come they ask you never to call them after 6pm? If you don't trust someone, don't be afraid to be a little challenging. Genuine people will, on the whole, understand you being a little cautious and won’t be bothered by it.

An easy mistake to make is sending mail to the wrong person, which can be embarrassing! If you have several prospects going on simultaneously (and most people do) keep a careful record of them, and never go online if you're very tired or have had a little too much to drink!

Don't be shy! You may think that the person you like best is way out of your league. Go for it and see!  After all, in the world of Senior Dating, my motto is "nothing ventured, nothing gained."

Who knows? You could soon be laughing together over a steamy cappuccino.